Forgive My Indecision

wifihobo:

fauxsuede:

wifihobo:

fauxsuede:

OHHH I can see how you would think…
I meant that calling someone a [blank] person might not be the best way to change their behavior. By all means call out their bad behavior, but going around calling everyone a cissexist might be hurting instead of helping. 

Well no, I’m not saying to go around “HEY YOU. YEAH, YOU, CISSEXIST ASSHOLE. LISTEN TO ME.” That’s a bad way of correcting anyone on anything. “HEY YOU, YOU ARE WRONG AND HERE IS WHY.”

HOWEVER, it doesn’t change the fact that cissexism is what it’s called. There’s no polite way to put it. xD Just like racism is racist. You can tell someone “hey that was kind of insensitive and offensive, don’t make racist comments like that”. You can also say “Hey, that was insensitive and rude, offensive and damaging, don’t make cissexist comments. Yeah, cissexism is a thing where <blah>. Now you know, so try not to anymore, okay?”

There are polite ways of calling people out for anything. It’s just, you gotta call it what it is. xD;

This post is longer than I thought it was O.O

I wasn’t saying you did or were, but I guess going back to the original reason which was the name of the blog, if you are going to use the blog as a way of pointing out to people that they should change their behavior, saying “Damn cis people” or “you are a cissexist if:” isn’t the best way to go about it. I mean, it seems a lot of it is microaggressions like someone using the wrong pronoun, which sometimes is just an accident. Saying “hey I’d really like you to be more careful about that” might be better than “Dear cissexist person, i’m really mad because you did such and such and now i’m talking to you as a /cissexist person/ and not just a human being” …that’s a really extreme example but I’m not well informed enough to give a better one sorry :[

and now i’m getting muddled, and i can find things to nitpick in here but i can’t think of a better way to say them sooo this is just my brain fart.

Well it’s in the description of the site, that blog in particular is for venting from trans* people who have had too much shit to deal with and just want to rage.

well, like I said, if someone is being cissexist, they’re being a cissexist person. That doesn’t preclude humanity, it just points out this flaw that needs to be addressed… and sometimes enough is enough and you just need to yell at people for being cissexist assholes. that’s the whole point of the blog. xD  ‘nuff said.

And if that’s the whole purpose of it that’s fine, but if that same format is being used to communicate with cis people I just don’t think that’s a good way to go about it. But if no one does that it’s all fine and dandy, I just brought up that point because it seemed to be in the progression of the conversation.

I just… i don’t think I agree with that second paragraph. Everyone has done bad things but I don’t think everyone is a bad person. I guess it can be argued otherwise and has in theology and philosophy so I won’t get into that… but yeah. 

Yes, technically you can call someone a cissexist, but that doesn’t mean they are or that you should always. That’s all I’m trying to get at.

I wouldn’t be having this conversation at all if the only people that saw these posts were trans* people that were venting, but the origination of it was the question of whether or not it should be changed because of reactions from cis people.

(via valentyn-the-mad)